What is Relationship Therapy?
Relationships go through different phases over the course of their existence, with some of these phases bringing more challenges than others. At times relationships can feel fractured and conflicted, with arguments and distance replacing previous feelings of intimacy and support.
Some relationships will weather this storm and return to positive experiences; some will get stuck in this difficult space with the relationship remaining intact but feeling damaged; others will result in the breakdown and dissolution of the relationship.
The causes of relationship difficulties can be wide ranging, with factors that include stress regarding either (or both) partners’ families, work stress, disagreements regarding parenting, one or both partners not feeling valued or appreciated, infidelity, addiction, and mental health difficulties being among the most commonly seen.
The goal of relationship counselling is not to provide a referee or judge in arguments, nor is it to completely focus on doing everything possible to keep relationships together regardless of how much emotional upset that may occur as a result of this. Instead, we focus on assisting each person in the partnership to recognise and work with their own communication style and emotional experience, so that when difficult situations occur within the relationship each person will be equipped to navigate these more effectively.
Therapists Offering Couples Therapy
- Coman Wilkinson MIAHIP Reg ICP €80
- Yvonne Booth MIACP €80
- Caroline Shore (Low Cost Scheme) €30
Therapy is a team effort. If you don’t take an active part in your sessions, you won’t find the experience valuable. Participation in therapy can result in a number of benefits to you, including improving interpersonal relationships and resolution of the specific concerns that led you to seek therapy. Working towards these benefits, however, requires effort on your part. Psychotherapy requires your very active involvement, honesty, and openness to change your thoughts, feelings, and/or behaviours. Good therapy should feel safe and enable you to take risks with the issues you are prepared to work on. You can get the best results by being open, saying how you are really feeling and by giving your therapist honest feedback on how you experience the therapy.
A therapist will be assigned to you based on your presenting needs. However, it is your right to determine if the therapist assigned to you meets your needs. Your therapist is either fully accredited with IAHIP or IACP or working towards their accreditation with either governing body. You do not have to stay with a therapist with whom you cannot relate or feel safe. The relationship between you and your therapist is fundamental to the therapeutic process. If one therapist does not feel right for you, you can ask to be referred back to Glosna and we will assign an alternative therapist to you. If this arises please call us on 087 7693966.
Sessions last 50-60 minutes, your therapist will confirm this with you at the first session. You will be offered weekly standing appointments with your therapist. An important part of the therapeutic process is providing consistency, predictability and security for therapy sessions. Your therapist will confirm your next appointment in person at the end of each session and these appointments are committed to by both parties weekly in advance. In general you will be offered the same time and same place on a regular basis, unless otherwise agreed with you in particular circumstances (i.e. shift workers etc) Note: There may come a time when you feel the need to reduce the regularity of appointments to every second week. This will be looked into in terms of availability for said appointments by the therapist if and when it occurs.
You have a right to expect professional confidentiality from your therapist. They may not release information to medical providers, schools, solicitors or other professionals unless you personally request it and you sign a Release Of Information (ROI) form. The duty of a therapist to keep confidential any information given by a client is required by law- except in very specific circumstances. Therapists are required to report to the appropriate authorities/parties information that leads them to believe that:
- The client presents a danger to him/herself
- The client presents a danger to the life, health and/or property of another
- When there is reasonable suspicion of child, dependent or elder abuse or neglect, current or historical
- The client is gravely disabled and is judged to be incapable of making self-care decisions
Duration of Therapy & Reviews:
We are often asked how long therapy will or should last. The answer to this question relies heavily on your involvement and commitment to the therapeutic process alongside your therapist. Time frames vary depending on the presenting issues. Keep in mind that psychotherapy is a medium to long-term process so don't expect any instant solutions to your concerns. However it is important to firstly establish a relationship with your therapist. In our experience a minimum commitment to 6 sessions allows for this therapeutic relationship to form and it is from this foundation that therapy can then move to a deeper level. You will agree regular reviews with your therapist to assess what is working and what is not. Also your personal goals may change and evolve and it is important you explore these with your therapist as therapy progresses.
You should give regular feedback during sessions about what aspects of the therapy have been helpful and what have not. A good therapist will invite you to do this and will allow time for it. This should help issues to be dealt with when they arise.
To provide the best quality care, our therapists are in active supervision. Supervision is a formal arrangement for Psychotherapists to discuss their work regularly with a qualified & experienced professional who mentors their work. Supervision is done with the full anonymity of the client preserved- no names or identifying circumstances are used.
What to expect from your first session?
During the first session, you will be asked about what brings you to therapy. You will be asked what your concerns, challenges & fears and details of any symptoms you are experiencing. You therapist will gather a brief history from you (as the sessions progress the therapist will gather more information). History-taking may cover such things as your childhood, education, relationships (family, romantic and friends), your current living situation and your career. The therapist may ask you to fill out forms about your current and past physical and emotional health. It might take a few sessions for your therapist to fully understand your situation and concerns and to determine the best approach or course of action. The first session is also an opportunity for you to interview your therapist to see if his or her approach and personality are going to work for you. Don't hesitate to ask questions anytime during your appointment. If you don't feel comfortable with the first psychotherapist you see, try someone else. The more you understand the psychotherapy process experience or how it all works, the more comfortable you’ll be. Ask questions about the therapy process, and ask the therapist to repeat anything you don’t understand.
Your therapist will confirm their weekly fee with you. Payment is taken by the therapist either in advance or at the end of each session. There is no general facility to take credit/debit cards.
We realise from time to time you may need to cancel or reschedule a weekly session. In the event that you need to cancel a session, you are required to give a certain period of notice as laid out by your therapist in the first session; otherwise the full fee is incurred. If you fail to keep an appointment you will be charged for that missed session. You are required to contact your therapist directly for any changes in appointments.
Contacting your Therapist:
In your first session your therapist will agree how you will contact each other outside of the therapy space and set boundaries around this. As this is a professional relationship, contact outside of therapy is not encouraged. All concerns, issues and questions are best dealt with in the therapeutic space. In the case of emergencies, your therapist will agree a safe and supportive method of contact with you.
Parents of under 18s:
As a parent of a client under 18 you are required to sign a consent form for your child to access therapy. There may be times when you wish to speak with your child’s therapist around the work; this will be arranged in the form of a face to face session for you through the therapist, and not a telephone conversation.
As you are approaching the end of therapy, you and your therapist will discuss a plan to conclude your therapy. These sessions are known as the “closing sessions”.